Death

Hi guys!

I hope you’re all well, taking care of yourself and taking time out to do things that you love!

The topic of this blog is quite saddening so if you feel like you cannot read on at any point then please discontinue because this was also quite hard to write so I totally understand.

Death. Death occurs all around us, people we know of, people we've never met and the saddest deaths are the ones most personal to us. Regardless, losing anybody hurts, it’s a type of loss that no other pain in the world compares to. It truly is heartbreaking to face the facts, to step away from being in-denial and accept the reality of the situation. Despite knowing all of this the truth is that we never really get used to the idea that this individual is no longer present to give us some of life’s simple pleasures. No more hugs, no more laughs and no more “see you later’s”.

One of the saddest truths to life is that we may not always get to say our ‘last goodbye’ to this person. The thing you have got to remember is that their last moment definitely means a whole ton, but the life they lived and the moments before their death mean so much more. Those are the moments they want remembered.

Death can come expectedly or unexpectedly, no matter which form it creeps up upon us it pains us on the receiving end of the news or the giving end. We can prepare ourselves forever but we can never be prepared enough to hear those words.

Allowing yourself to grieve is ok. Allowing yourself to let it all in is ok. Allowing yourself to heal is ok.

You may feel better some days and start to feel as though your life is finally getting better; then out of nowhere it will hit you again because memories never disappear. The memory of this person can bring back a smile or a tear, but most importantly it is there to remind you that the connection you had with them will never fade.

As much as you may want to be happy and continue with your life as it was before, this can take time. Your life is not how it was before so you don’t have to pretend that it is. You have to allow yourself to heal before you can even think about letting go and even then you will always have something inside holding on because it makes you feel safe.

These can be some extremely lonely times and nobody should go through them alone. Find your person, the person you can open up to fully, somebody who will be there for you always! Let them into your life, let them be there for you, through it all.

If anybody ever feels like they can’t talk to the people around them then you can always message me on this and I will never know who you are because all messages are anonymous but I can ensure you I will try to help you to the best of my abilities.

Thanks :)